Introduction to my blog

I began specializing in narcissistic abuse (NA) for personal reasons and because victims of NA are an underserved population. Graduate programs barely touch on the subject, and few of us are trained to recognize it, let alone treat it. I have made it my mission to become as well-versed in the topic as possible in order to help those affected by it.

Helping victims of NA can be life-changing because it gives people a framework for understanding experiences that often feel confusing, isolating, and difficult to explain. Many people don't realize they're experiencing narcissistic abuse until they've been in the relationship for some time. This is because they don't initially recognize that they're in an emotionally abusive relationship, as the manipulation tends to be subtle, gradual, and inconsistent. Before long, victims find themselves immersed in a relationship that feels impossible to continue, yet equally impossible to extricate themselves from.

Dr. Ramani Durvasula (aka Dr. Ramani) is the person I consider the guru of narcissistic abuse. I commonly turn to her work and will often reference her throughout this blog. Rather than focusing on whether someone "is a narcissist," she encourages people to pay attention to the patterns within the relationship and their impact on a person's well-being.

My intention for this blog is to help people identify what is happening in their relationships and figure out to take care of themselves. I want to help people who have experienced narcissistic abuse understand their reality and, ultimately, no longer see themselves as victims, but as SURVIVORS.